When mom lives life in recovery, how does she get it all done and keep her recovery in check?
Here are some things recovery mom’s can do to have a well-balanced family life and recovery.
A new guest article by: Darci Maxwell.
Every mom has a hard time trying to “do it all.” It’s no surprise, there is so much to do – taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, cleaning the house again because your kids got into something, cooking dinner, doing the laundry, running errands, staying in touch with your friends and family, working out, going to work, being an effective employee, etc. etc. etc. The unfortunate truth is that there is not enough time to do everything. However, there are ways to make your life more effective. Read on for twelve tips and tricks to help you accomplish more in less time.
Realize That You Can’t Do Everything
Each of us is limited to 24 hours a day. There are so many things that we want to do, but it is impossible to do everything. You need to learn to let go of the myth of perfection, and only do what you realistically can. Decide what is good enough, and let go of the rest.
Take Care of Yourself
The safety video on an airplane tells you to first secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. If you are burnt out, you will not be able to help your friends or family. Make sure that you get enough sleep, eat right, exercise daily, etc.
Save yourself time by being prepared. Keep an overnight bag for each child in the car, stock your fridge and pantry with meals that you can make in a jiffy, have medicines on hand (and keep them labeled), and keep a notebook and pen in your car. It may take a little bit of planning now to make sure that you have things ready for the future, but it will save you time in the long run.
Decide what is most important and tackle those tasks first. There are probably a few things on your list that can be postponed for when you have time, and a few that need to happen right away. Take things one day at a time, and try not to get overwhelmed with your to-do’s.
Make a List
Every day make a list to keep track of the things that you need to get done. Make sure that you put the most important things at the top, and the least important things towards the bottom. Keep a running list throughout the week as well, so that you know what still needs to get done. Mark things off as you accomplish them so that you keep yourself on track. Find a way to organize your list that works for you. Do you like having it on a piece of paper, on your phone, or in your planner?
Set Reminders For Yourself
This blog suggests that you should use your phone or computer to help you complete your to do list. Set timers and reminders for yourself to keep yourself on task. Make sure that you put all of your appointments in your calendar so that you don’t accidentally forget a doctor’s appointment or tee-ball game. If you are not near a phone or computer, keep a kitchen timer at your side so that you can keep track of time.
You waste a lot of time trying to find things, like your keys, shopping list, reading glasses, coupons, bills, etc. Organize your life and stop wasting time looking for things. ” When you use something, put it away, so that you can find it the next time you need it. Make sure that you label everything, so that you remember where it goes. Create a folder system for your bills so that you can get them all paid. Better yet, set up automatic payments to streamline your process. Adopt the mentality “Everything has a place, and everything belongs in its place.
You don’t need to do everything. Find things in your routine that you can cut out so that you can do more in less time. For example, save time by cutting mouthwash out of your dental routine (you may not actually need it after all). Do quick 15 minute cleanings, and keep cleaning supplies in your bathrooms and kitchen so that you don’t have to take extra time to prepare for gather your cleaning supplies. Find other ways to simplify your routine every day so that you can be more efficient.
Throw It Out
Get rid of old clothes, mail, receipts, etc. If you have not used it in the past year, chances are you’re not going to use it in the next year, so get rid of it! Give it to a neighbor, donate it to a local charity, or just throw it away. Sit down with your children, and help them decide what toys they can give away. Go through your own closet as well and decide what you don’t need anymore.
Don’t Buy It
When you are at the store, avoid buying new unnecessary things to add to the junk in your life. Ask yourself “Do I really need this?” before you buy anything new. Check out rental options around town instead of buying something that you will only use once. For example, rent a carpet cleaner rather buying a new one that you will then have to store somewhere in your house.
Spend Time With The Family
It is more important to give time to your family than it is to have a spotless house or do everything on your list. Your children will not remember how many errands you run, rather, how much time you spend with them. Take the time to play trains with your 4 year-old son and to dress up with your 3 year-old daughter. Time spent with your children is precious, so make the most of it when you can.
Make a Plan That Works For You
You can find hundreds of self-help books and articles on the internet, each with their own advice. Don’t try to do every helpful hint, as you will exhaust yourself. Find things that work for you, and ask for help when you need it.
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