Hello, and Welcome Recovery Friends!
How about we rid ourselves of “FEAR” in our recovery journey. Fear holds us back when we are doing the work necessary to reclaim our lives back from addiction and break the cycle as well. Yes, it can be a tough job, but the more you face those fears, walk through them, and don’t let hold you back? There is are such rewards that come to you! A big one? A big one is SELF WORTH.
See, we come into early recovery so broken and devastated, we have become so beat down by our addictions and can not see any beauty in life itself nor within ourselves, so it’s no wonder many may fall or relapse as statistics say. Most who come out of rehab, treatment, or like me, from an addictions/mental health crisis center and per rehabs.com, “addiction often involves at least one relapse and many users will backslide multiple times. A lot of addicts will enter addiction treatment programs again and again without achieving long-term sobriety.”
Now in my own recovery, I had been diagnosed with mental/emotional health issues on top of trying to stay in recovery from gambling addiction and later on abuse of alcohol when I gambled. So I had fear on top of fear that others would think less of me because I had mental health disorders. I also fought with “just wanting to be Normal” whatever the HELL that was supposed to be. I say this because I have always felt since childhood that I was different. I felt it in many ways, and that is another blog post for another day.
Fear can keep an addict from reaching out for help and recovery, to be able to even start on a road to recovery as we are scared. We can fear the amount of work it may take to recover as well. I can across an article about, “Six Common Fears You Don’t Recovery – And What to do about them” over on PsychCentral here is a little of what they say about fear in recovery from addiction and what to do.
#1 Fear of Sobriety – “Getting sober means replacing your primary coping mechanism”
#2 Fear of Failure – “There are times when you’ll doubt yourself and get pushed outside of your comfort zone. There are times when you will fall short of a goal.”
#3 Fear of Success – “The flip side of the fear of failure is the fear of success. Most people don’t consciously self-sabotage, but they have a deeply held belief that they don’t deserve to succeed.”
#4 Fear of Rejection – Denial – “Worried that they may be abandoned by the people they love or judged by others.”
#5 Fear of Losing Your Identity – “Who are you if you aren’t an addict? What are your hopes, desires, and values? These are some of the most difficult questions in recovery, and the answers may change over time.
#6 Fear of Perpetual Misery – “Lurking in the minds of most recovering addicts is the question: What if I do the hard work of recovery and am still miserable?”
So make sure you go take a read of the full blog post to learn how to kick fear out of the 6 most common ones in recovery and how. NOW, a whole different FEAR I also have to battle? Is the fear and panic with battling Agoraphobia. Yes, and deep bipolar manic depression at times. But I continue to push through. It is the only way to NOT let mental health in my recovery keep me from doing what I want to do. Yes, it is difficult to deal with being dual diagnosed, but when I think of what those years when I wasn’t on medication and manic with the obsession of gambling addiction, I know THAT’S not where I want to be ever again.
“I CHOOSE RECOVERY INSTEAD!”
ODAAT Recovery Friends!
Recovery Author, Columnist & Advocate,
Catherine Townsend-Lyon XO